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Angie Ilg - Life Coach

Are you ready to stop letting your fear and anxiety be the boss of you? We're learning how to work through all of that and come out bright and shining on the other side! Join me as I talk with Life Coach Angie Ilg and learn how to move through anxiety and self doubt!


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Angie is a life coach, writer, and speaker. She's passionate about helping people come back into their feminine energy (which makes life a WHOLE lot easier), especially women, but not limited to women. 

She's highly sensitive, and helps people who feel things really deeply, but have never had the tools or support to harness all the gifts that come along with it. What she's found is that, when it goes unrecognized or un-nurtured, it can turn into the flip side of those gifts, struggling with self-doubt, anxiety, and overthinking. She helps people come back to the innate power and gifts within them, so that they can live a life they truly love, love who they truly are, and make a positive impact in this world.
In the past Angie struggled with OCD, an eating disorder, self-doubt, and low self-worth. She found herself in toxic, unhealthy relationships that were dissatisfying, and she was unclear about her purpose or what she was meant to do in this world.
Through deep inner work, with the help of coaches, therapists, and loving relationships, she was able to not only recover, but create the life she'd dreamed of - one full of love, joy, and magic.
She found that one of the keys to self-discovery, clarity, and inner freedom is working with and processing our emotions. She offers a free guide to emotional ease - All the Feels. You can find that here:
Angie also offers a free 45-minute call, where she can offer immediate relief and guidance. The feedback from these calls has been really positive! Book your time here:
Soon she'll be launching a new program designed for anyone born with a uterus ;) It's a guide to coming back to your cyclical nature and your TRUTH, so that you can harness the power already within you to create and live with more ease, love, and magic. Stay tuned for announcements on Instagram @cyclemagicsisters
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And on Instagram @angieilg
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Lauren Gabrielle Foster 0:00
So Hello, and welcome to today's episode of the How to Choose happiness and freedom Show. I'm your host Lauren foster happiness teacher, and founder of be happy. First, we're on a mission to help 1 million women learn to be happy and free on purpose. So each and every week, I have an amazing guest that has a different perspective and wisdom and guidance to share with you. And I'm so happy today to welcome Angie elke, she is so sweet and so charming and so bright and vibrant. She is a life coach, writer and speaker. She's passionate about helping people come back into their feminine energy, which makes life a whole lot easier for women, but not necessarily limited to women. So welcome, Angie, thanks so much for being here. Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to dive into the topics we're going to talk about today. Yeah, me too. You know, we were talking before we went live that

I am not a person who experiences unexplained anxiety, but I see it so much around. So I'm so happy that you're here to try and help explain and maybe shine a light on how you know if this is something that's, that's happening to you, and how you can work through that and look for the gifts and things like that. So where would you start? How do I know? If I am just having anxiety? For no reason? Mm hmm. is an interesting question, because there is a reason for it.

Angie Ilg 1:36
But what I've discovered over time is that usually we're only seeing the surface level reason we're having this experience and anxiety is the only really the only emotion that's in our head. It's like this very heavy head state. A lot of thinking goes into anxiety, whereas more raw emotions are in your body like sadness. And fear is different even than anxiety. So you would know you're experiencing anxiety, actually, the symptoms of anxiety, the list is vast. It can actually show up in ways where you wouldn't you wouldn't know

a physical symptoms, you know, like your heart racing, even blushing can be a symptom of anxiety. One of the biggest things I see is overthinking indecision.

self doubt, and anxiety can go a lot, a lot hand in hand. And myself, when I experienced I even at one point had a panic attack. I know some people have those even regularly, I was fortunate to only experience it once because it was really, really scary.

Yeah, so the symptom is asked, and

a lot of people are experiencing it. Even before the pandemic, and especially now during the pandemic, it's really very much rooted in a discomfort with uncertainty, not not wanting things to be uncertain and, and really needing certainty to create a sense of safety. So wanting to have things figured out and wanting to be like you're in control of things. Is that Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's innocent. It's, it's something we develop all our patterns at such a young age that we develop them as a way to help ourselves, you know, in a world that we couldn't really control much in and depending on your environment, and your nervous system, your family, your culture, all of those things. You might have needed anxiety in a way because it actually it like I said, it's a head state. So what I for me, what happened was that it was just too much to experience what was happening in my body, the emotions in my body, that it's,

in a way, like going into my head and thinking a bunch. I felt like I had more control. It gave me this illusion of control. Are you I should have asked you this before. But are you willing to share more about your experiences to how you dealt with your own anxiety and then moved into a place of helping others? Yeah, definitely. Yeah, I'm gonna share more with that. Yes, please. Yeah, so, um, I grew up in a really big family, a really loving family. I had like a super adventurous childhood really fun. And I also I didn't know that I was a really sensitive person. I didn't have any vocabulary for emotions. We didn't talk about emotions. My parents didn't get that in their upbringing. So I was just kind of, you know, trying to navigate the world and I just assumed something was wrong with me, like consciously and unconsciously at first it was unconsciously just there must be something wrong with me.

And then it became a pattern of thought that there must be something wrong with me. Because why was I struggling so much when everyone else seemed to be fine, everyone else seemed to, you know, navigate life with a lot more ease and be able to handle all sorts of different situations. And I didn't understand that I have a different nervous system than other people and that I experienced things more deeply than some people do. So instead, I was just having all these experiences that were in an in a sense, traumatic, just because they were so much not that I was necessarily, I was never abused, fortunately, or anything like that. But just

the level of which our world is was a lot for me to handle being a really sensitive person. So when things happen, like in high school when I went through a breakup, and it was so just heartbreaking, I remember just feeling completely lost. Even though I broke up with the person I just felt completely lost, like, my heart was ripped open, like I was totally alone. And it was just too much to handle. And so I started controlling the food that I ate there, you can like to down to the tee, every single day, it had to be the same thing, the same amount, I started exercising obsessively. And this started to give me the sense of like,

surface level happiness, you know, because I was losing weight. And then that started to make me feel good. And

it felt like

it felt safer in a way like this is all unconscious, I didn't understand what I was doing. But that was the beginning of anxiety disorders because an eating disorder is an anxiety disorder. Um, so the anxiety disorders manifested in different ways, like through controlling my food and my exercise to try to control my body. And then more internal with OCD and like the way that my thoughts happened, where I would have a thought I didn't like and then I would try really hard to either make it go away or reassure myself or get reassured by someone outside of me really, like crazy making

habits and mental addictions that were just really made my world smaller and smaller. And I had, I had so many limitations because I had to,

you know, was with the eating disorder, for example,

had to try to make sure I knew what all the situations would be. So I could have it the way I needed it to be in order to feel okay. So this one on with anxiety disorders for, I would say since I was about 16 ish, until somewhere in my late 20s. When I started, actually was in my early 20s in college when I started to talk about what I was feeling a little bit. Um, I didn't find the right support, though I tried therapy, but they weren't good fits. For me that many therapists I tried. I tried going to the doctor and tried like Lexapro, which is an antidepressant, which had no effect on me, I did not like taking it. I explored Buddhism, I just was on a journey because even though it's hard and what as it was, I knew deep down even if not consciously, I knew that I wasn't supposed to. It wasn't supposed to be this hard, and that this wasn't who I was, it was something that I was experiencing. And so I just kept searching, I was just such a searcher for answers. I just wanted answers and I wanted to, to move forward and to not feel like there was something wrong with me and to not have to be in this place of so much suffering. It just registered to me that it was unnecessary. Right? It was just so heavy and unnecessary. And all the while I was living my life. I went to college in New York City, I went I rode my bike across the country I I had studied abroad in France, I had a lot of fun. So I was still doing all this. But underneath everything was fear and anxiety and so much believing I wasn't good enough.

And then what really changed was I began, first out of synchronicity received a book that talked all about that negative voice we have in our head. I started doing that work. And then I ended up taking a course with the author and her partner. And then I ended up studying more deeply one on one with them. We're actually in a small group of women but with one on one time and they were coaches. And it started to unravel piece by piece.

The ways that I wasn't feeling my emotions and the things that I believed about

myself in the world, and I started to rewrite these neural pathways and understand more about mental health, emotional health, spiritual, all the bodies of health. So mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, sexual, all of them. Because it all it's holistic, it's all a mind body connection, everything.

So through many years of working with coaches, and then I did find some therapists that were good, and self study, which like podcasts, YouTube, and books, were awesome, I started to learn more about what I was experiencing, I did self diagnose OCD, because the psychiatrist had missed it. And he just said generalized anxiety, but it was not it was OCD. The symptoms were so, so specific, and I ended up googling them and finding a blog that described it, like to a tee, crazy, this OCD therapist in Florida. And so through all those different things in overtime and staying curious and being more less judgmental of what I was experiencing, and more just the observer in my life, I'm really connected to a deeper part of me a higher part of me, that could almost like an inner parent that could be there. For the younger part of me, and the part of me that was scared, and helped me take steps through this process that I knew wouldn't happen overnight. But at least a part of me believed that I could get to that place I saw, I won't want it to be, and then I would get there. And then I would it would reveal something else. And then I would go deeper. So it's been that journey. But about 444 and a half years ago, I was in an OCD and anxiety support group. And I had been in there for about a year when I first realized it was OSI. And it had been helpful. And then after some time, I was more there to help the people in the group. But I knew that wasn't my place, because it was a peer support group. And I needed a way to do that, professionally, that's when I started training as a coach and started my business so that I could

sit in front of someone and help them be able to make those changes and do it actually quicker than I was able to because through the experience I had finding what works, it's able to share that.

And so I started it was like a Wednesday, I went to that group. And I decided that night just to begin my course, like sign up for the course the very next day, so I could coach like start learning all that. Um, and it's been it's been such a great journey, because I, I will always continue to grow and evolve in

my understandings of all of this of mental health and all the different aspects of health that I was talking about.

Yeah, I feel like there was something else I was going to share with you on that. So are you are you willing to share a little bit more about how your OCD manifested what so that my goal here is to let our listeners and our viewers maybe see themselves in you. And you alone in that so but if there's if I ask you any questions that are too personal, just just say no, not saying that. Yeah, yeah. No happy to happy to if you have specific questions, or I can just share generally, yeah, the the well, the the OCD. How did that how did what what what did that look like? What so yeah, the reason I I it was missed was because I wasn't doing things like light switches or arranging books, there wasn't as much external. It was this internal process of


How do I describe it?

It's like a freaking out about your thoughts. To put it simply, I would have a thought or an image popped into my mind. And it would create a spiral effect. Because what if that's true? If you're having a lot of what if statements, that's a good, good inclination that you're leaning into anxiety or into possibly OCD? I mean, I'm not I'm not going to diagnose anyone. I'm not a psychologist, but right. No, yes. It really is. Yeah. Yeah. I'm glad you asked that, because that, you know, I have a whole lot of people. I mean, a lot of people suffer from anxiety. And a whole lot of this people are people that I love. And, you know, I know them I see them and I know specifically that what you just said is going to resonate with some people that I know because that that that will happen some frightening even a dream, you know, and you're like, Oh my God, why did I dream that and it suddenly becomes this blown up thing that what why would I even think that thought you know, so that's that's and then you beat yourself up and worry about it and and you're right, that spiral gets created and

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 15:00
Yeah, and off you go. And I believe that's true for everyone. That Yes, everyone who has a brain Yes. And this is, you know, what we teach for in the law of attraction that if you think something that's beautiful and kind and wonderful and happy, that thought attracts another thought like it, and another and another, but at the same time, if you're thinking something that's incredibly fearful and horrible, and, you know, frightening, you attract more thoughts that look like that. And so the spiral goes in the other direction. But I do believe there are levels of severity that, you know, I've never had what you just described, but I know many people do. So. Yeah, that's awesome. Okay, so what?

I personally believe that everyone needs a life coach.

And I have my own, I don't do one on one coaching at this time, but you do. So how would someone know if getting a life coach is right for them? And how to find the one that's right for them? That's a great question. And first of all, if anyone is thinking about it, a lot of coaches offer a consultation call or you know, a short, free chat. So that's a great way if you're, everyone has an intuition. So if you can, you can get on that call and feel into a little, little bit.

Angie Ilg 16:19
So I think you're ready for coaching, if you're at a place in your life, where you're functional, and Okay, or even good, but you want to get to this place, that's great, like really expand your life, and you have a sense that there's something more for you, I hear that a lot from people, like, I don't know exactly what but I feel like there's something more to life to my life.

Um, it's not a good fit for you, if you're at a place where you're so deep in, for example, and anxiety sort of that you might need a different kind of professional help you might need.

Sometimes people do need medication to get to a place where they can work with their mind a little bit easier. If it's if it's so deep in something, or sometimes they need a specific type of therapist, or that type of thing. But for the most part, if you're you're ready for something more in your life, and you would love support and being able to see something that you're not that's not working, you're not seeing it, maybe you're not understanding what the obstacle is, or you keep bumping up against the same obstacle. And it's like you're hitting a wall. And

you know, there's a way around it, but you continue to not be able to figure it out. a life coach can help you see those blind spots, help you really work with the obstacles so that they're no longer even obstacles anymore, and help you with what happens is we have our

we have our patterns, our internal patterns. And as long as the pattern is running, we have the same thing happening over and over. So a coach can help you change those internal patterns, or the belief system that's not getting you what you want really helped your your mind work for you, not against you. And especially since life coaches are all specializing in different areas. For example, with me, if you're someone that's struggling with anxiety, self doubt, thoughts, dissatisfied relationships, I specialize in those areas where I can help you have really dramatic results in a relatively short amount of time. Okay.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 18:38
So wherever you're watching this video, or listening to the podcast, if you just look down there, we're in provide all of the links. Angie does offer free consultations, getting to know you strategy sessions, if you will, right. Yeah, yeah. And we've got links to some of her other cool programs that we're going to talk about a little bit more as we go to. So wherever you are, Look down, look in the show notes. And you'll, you'll find the links to be able to get in touch with Angie.

So we talked in our first interview about finding the gifts. Talk to me more about what you mean by that and what that looks like in real life.

Angie Ilg 19:16
Yeah, okay. So this is an interesting area, because I was working in a six month program earlier this year with many other people who are highly sensitive. And it seemed like this, like a fluffy, airy, fluffy, you know, two weeks that we were going to focus on this, but it was actually really deep because I'm starting to think about how your struggles might actually be gifts brought up a lot just it brings up a lot of your history and a lot of the either judgment you've had on yourself or devaluing of yourself. So but what I found is that for people who feel things really deeply or an experienced anxiety disorders, they actually

Have a gift of, first of all, experiencing a really rich life because emotions are what gives the flavor to life. Emotions are what everything is about, like we do things because we want to feel XYZ, we want to feel happy, we want to feel free, whatever it is, we want to feel something emotions are everything. And so people who feel them deeply get to experience those ones like bliss and joy even more.

As well as if you have had anxiety sores, or experiencing anxiety, it means that you are someone who cares a lot. Anxiety latches on to what you care about. It's just misdirected. Your care is misdirected. And when I realized that, I actually wrote a blog about this like four years ago about I just don't I really don't care about these things that I'm that I have anxiety about, I don't care. Really what people think of me, I don't really care about all these things I'm worrying about the things I care about are my relationships, my purpose in life, getting to support and help people. So it's interesting to think about that, that the only reason you can experience anxiety is because you care so deeply.

And then I've also seen that, for example, anxiety, on the flip side of that, it means you are you have a gift of good planning of thoughtfulness, paying attention, people who are highly sensitive, for example, they, they have a depth of processing, and they're easily overstimulated. And the flip side of that is they they notice subtleties. So you maybe make connections that other people might miss, whether that's, you know about problem solving, or

feel like that's the best example I can think of right now. But you're making connections about things or, or relating things that go together that people might have missed, as well as seeing beauty, where others might miss it, because you're noticing all these little subtleties. For example, having this struggle of boundary issues, that the flip side of that is that you're really loyal, you know, and you have real relationships mean a lot to you. So with, when we try to totally get rid of one, we're getting rid of the other, like, if we try to get rid of, for example, sadness, or shame or, or fear, then we're also getting rid of the opposite, higher emotions, that feel really good. We're essentially numbing both, if we try to no one. Interesting. So let's and I want to delve a little bit more into that, because that that's, that was put in a way that I haven't really heard it. So

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 22:58
let's take grief, for example.

We lost my brother last year, and the you know, the all the members of my family are, you know, grieving that in a bad way, especially my sister in law, who, you know, it's the love of her life. And you don't want to get rid of your grief that would seem

just the wrong, you know, and not not authentic and not, not honoring that love in that relationship. So So what is the answer to but but you don't want to live the rest of your life in that just, you know, dark sadness either. So, yeah, what would be your advice? What would be your solution?

Angie Ilg 23:40
Well, yeah, grief is an interesting one, because we even experience grief when there are good changes, because to a smaller degree than when someone passes away. But when they're good changes, we grieve our old self, we grieve our old life, even though something positive is happening. I believe that the answer is always that we need to feel the emotions we need to allow them, we need to give space for them. If we don't they and this has been proven by doctors and scientists that they they are trapped in our body. in our,

in our molecules. There's a book I think it's called molecules of emotion that talks about this. So our job is to feel we're we're meant to feel that grief. And of course, we don't want to just sit and negative emotions, but allow them and let them move through. And the average life span of emotion if it's not manipulated or shoved down or tried to be fixed, if it's just felt is 90 seconds. So that really that fact really helped me when I was feeling fear or sadness. If I could allow it. I knew it probably wouldn't last that long.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 24:58
That's interesting. So if you could just say to yourself, this too shall pass in about 90 seconds, then suddenly that, that pain and sadness and fear, anxiety, whatever it is, has less power re because you know it's on its way out just as quickly as it arrived is that yes.

Angie Ilg 25:17
And well with grief of course that's a process of feeling it over and over as you as you grieve the loss, and it's, I would like as a culture for us to not view emotions as good or bad. Because grief is a beautiful thing, you get to process this, this loss and really see what this person meant to you and really feel some grief. I imagine, I haven't been through a big loss like that. But I would imagine you you're in your heart, you're feeling so much in your heart. And that's even though that's difficult, that's a beautiful place to be. And there's, I think we sort of make certain we have this expectation of happiness in our culture, that we're generally supposed to be happy all the time. And that's why people are on pills and like,

that's why people are feel ashamed for you know, so many different reasons about what they're experiencing, they think that they should feel happy. But actually, you should just feel whatever the emotion is that you're feeling, right emotion, right? Because we have what that without said, without those negative emotions, what would happiness even look like?

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 26:33
Everything having a flip side, so yeah, and that would be a

you know, I feel like those are the colors of the tapestry of your life. And if all colors are just light, airy, fluffy, shallow, it's, you know, not a rich existence. So I get I love what you're teaching, and, but I do see so many people that are, I believe that you should spend most of your time in happiness, know, most, and, but not, of course, denying those dark, dark moments, but so many people are having the majority of their life, the dark moments, and their moments of happiness. And, you know, fulfillment and satisfaction are few and far between. and Emily that that's that's completely a choice. But you can't just flip a switch and go, Oh, suddenly, I'm, I'm just now I'm happy 80% of the time inside 20% of time instead the other way around it. It's a process of relearning, right. Yeah, it absolutely is.

Angie Ilg 27:33
The awesome side effect. And the funny like, truth to it is when we allow ourselves to feel the negative emotions, we actually end up feeling a lot more of the positive ones, like, I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life. And I fully allow sadness, I actually enjoy sadness now in a weird way. Because, um, I think it's a really interesting experience in my body, I allow, if shame comes up even that, and that's like one of the most difficult ones, I think, to feel. And then as a result, I'm not holding on to all this baggage, I'm letting it go. So I don't carry all that weight. And like what you're teaching, I do know that we have so much choice in our life to what we put our attention on what we, how we respond to life. And all those choices we make over time can create this baseline that what I think it's like an anchor in our core of for me, it's like this anchor of calm, and this anchor of love and enjoy that I that's always there in my anger, even if there's like the storm above it, of whatever that day might bring at different times throughout the day. And, and also right now, it's totally understandable if you're experiencing more heavy feelings.

I've experienced it for sure. During this time, it just, I feel what's going on around me I know what's going around on around me. And that's, that's a very real invalid experience. Any emotional experience you're having is very real invalid. Oh, it's all it's like, yes. And all of these things like there's an expectation of happiness that's unhealthy. And there's also the ability to feel happy a lot of the time. And we get experienced all of the range of emotions. And you know, when you're angry, or you're sad, or you're depressed, we you know, I'm so grateful that I get to feel this way because this means that I'm experiencing the full spectrum of what it means to be human, you know? Yeah, I think of it like a rainbow with emotions. Like, would you ever just decide, I don't want any more blue? You know? Like, I'll take the other colors, right? You know, you're gonna miss out on a lot of beauty in your life. That's a great analogy. I love that. That's awesome. Okay, so, um, what does the sub did, I call you and I have a strategy session.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 30:00
If you and I decided that I love you, and you love me and we want to work together, what what, what are the expectations of that is that, you know, how long How often do you may? What kinds of things do you do to describe your work for me? Yeah, well, that's what I love about one on one coaching is I get to meet you exactly where you're at. And we usually know we do like that longer call, like 45 minutes or an hour where I get to help you get really, really clear on what do you really want? And what would we work on or this these next several months. And

Angie Ilg 30:35
typically, I like to work with people, usually we start for about six months, because it gives us this, like, nice, solid amount of time to create lasting deep change, I'm not interested in, like, you know, if you have a garden, and there's weeds, and you go and just like snip the top of the weeds, they just roll back. So he instead look at what are these routes that we want to dig up, we dig them up, we decide what wants to get planted so that you have the exact garden you want. And it's a really, really fun process. Since it is right now primarily what I do is one on one, that it's so individual to your life.

And I have a lot of fun with my clients. It's really exciting for both them and for me, and

one of my clients was just emailing me that she, we've been working together maybe two or three months. And she said her life has changed so much since beginning to work together. And in ways she wasn't even expecting, like all of a sudden she's decided that she's going to buy her house. And that was not on her radar. But she's just really shifted into a place of smart boldness in her life. She's like, No, I have a lot of value. I really love who I am. And I'm not going to settle for less than my heart and soul desire. So it's really fun. And it's it's, um, coaching is interactive. And it's like playing football in your life. So when we when we work together, you'll know exactly what to do, which is nice, like actual tools, actual specific things to focus on or work on. You'll know how to do them, obviously, because I'm sharing that with you. And we're coming up with the answers together. I'm never like prescribing something. It's all collaborative. So I really like that aspect. Because it's really empowering for the clients I work with, for them to realize they have this inner voice of wisdom, they have this intuition. They have they've known these answers for a long time, they just haven't known how to access them or how to trust them. Right and see how I can touch with who they really are.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 32:43
And yes, our them to get their own answers, right. Yeah, yeah. I love the whole process, too. All right.

So now I want to hear about the and I can't remember what it's called I apologize. Your new program for anyone born with the uterus. Yes.

Angie Ilg 33:03
Anyone born with a uterus, whether you identify as a woman, trans, whatever non binary

it's a program about if you're if you have a uterus, you are a cyclical being you do not operate only on a 24 hour circadian rhythm.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 33:21
Let me ask a question there. So is that I've been very interested in studying the moon phases lately, and living my life according to this. And I so is it only women or people who have the men or not? This program isn't designed for men? Um, it's not that I think anyone can use the moon in those ways. mm come, but it's not as innate physically as it is with, you know, what us with our 29 day cycle that our bodies go through, you know, all of our lives, so Okay. Yeah. Sorry about that. No, no worries at all.

Angie Ilg 33:58
That's a good question. Um, so I actually created the program, and it's not yet finished, but I'm creating it with my sister, my soul sister and biological sister, my best friend. And, um, and we, we just realized, so we've been doing this work on our own our own lives for at least three years. And what what I found is that

before, being in tune with my cyclical nature, I felt consistently burnt out, stressed out, my body didn't like it. Like I felt like I had a little more weight on me. Um, I felt like

not as powerful editor in terms of natural confidence. I really felt like I had to push through life and things came slow and with a lot of hard work in many ways, which just isn't my true nature. I'm just so what I was doing without knowing it was operating primarily in masculine energy.

For a lot of my life, like, especially eating disorders, and that that's very, like control controlled and rigid. And, and when I started to wake up to this wisdom that I was like how was I never even given this until into some time into my 30s that was never given this, this is life changing wisdom, and honestly very accessible, because it's innate in your body to you just need the sort of like the guide map. Um, I started to have more I had had like better relationships, my body responded better to life. I mean, the simple fact that I let myself rest on days when I was tired was just a huge change. And, and it took many, many, many months, if not a couple years for me to feel like, Oh, it's okay. And I'm not. This is not like unproductive This is not a negative, this is a very positive, productive in itself thing. Yeah. So I am so excited about this. It's called psycho magic. And it's a program you can take on your own, but there will be a sisterhood community of a way to connect with people taking the, in the program learning and going on this treasure map, like treasure hunt, essentially within yourself. And

I'm just excited because I really believe that for for many people, woman, people, people with a uterus, um, that this is the way to come back into true power in your life. This is the way to

experience life with ease, and more success. It's like, it gets easier and you get more successful, it gets easier, and you have more abundance, you have more love. It's crazy. To me. That's why it's called cycle magic. Because it seems like magic, yet. It's really not that hard.

And I honestly when I think about I get a little bit mad that why don't why don't we have this information. But I know what I know why we don't like it's it's a result of the past thousands of years of patriarchy in the way that we know it to be now.

Because women in in their power didn't work. You know, when the patriarchy began, it just didn't work for them. They needed women to not be in their in their power.

So that we we hope to launch it around the new year. And I know in the show notes, there's the Instagram handle where you can stay for stay tuned for that. But it's gonna be really fun, too. Oh, is it for sell? Like I'm, I'm in metropass? Yeah. Is it over for me? Or no? No, oh, my gosh, we're just gonna do a whole bonus video on menopause. Because the crazy thing is our culture tends to look at that as like, oh, you're done. But the it's the opposite is true. Actually, women in menopause have access to all the powers all the time. Whereas women in you know not in menopause, still cycling, you have access to the powers at different times throughout your however long your cycle is 29 days, on average, whatever it is. So we like have a whole video of this. And we're going to be like bow down to women, because there's so much wisdom, there's so much power, it's like you're you're the queen of frickin everything at that time. And we need that with that wisdom out there. Because

that's really when women get into this place of like I said, access to all those powers all the time that there's a lot of there's a lot of

potential for change making an impact. And so we really talk about that, as well as the fact that when you're in menopause, and or if you're someone who doesn't get a bleed, you can look at the moon and start to see how your energy might shift around what phase the moon is. Women used to always lead on the new moon and it used to be like totally synched up. So it's a good way to track that. And notice when you need rest, or when you have creative energy or when you're good at multitasking or details or that kind of thing.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 39:10
So are you able to teach very young girls prefer pre pubescent girls? I think that this? Yes. Yes.

Angie Ilg 39:20
I'm curious about that. I'm actually going to talk to a couple high school classes on Monday. And I've been like kind of feeling into what level of conditioning have they had at that point? And because we do talk a lot in this program about what we have to unlearn. So I think it's effective for any age, but it would be like needs to be delivered maybe in different ways for prepubescent or high school girls. Maybe I'm not sure yet because maybe where it's at. It'd be great for for young women in high school. Yeah, and you know, not I even would love to see our little girls.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 40:00
to, you know, are still having their minds formed, be, you know, do read more empowering messages and, and understanding masculine and feminine power, not the masculine power is bad, that's, you know, we get things done we build things, we

control things in a masculine way and the, you know, but the feminine power and feminine energy is so important to and I love that we're coming into that as, as a

as a species, I guess and you know, women being able to step up and be themselves and authentically, you know, bring feminine power to the penny. Oh, I see it. with women waking up, I and I see this in a lot of programs like awaken waking up like the words keep getting used, because that's all it is, is it's already there. We're just realizing it. And we're coming back to it being what it's meant to be, which is

a really positive thing, a really force for good and force for creation force for life, like the feminine energies are the creative ones, we, the world would cease to exist without them. And I love what you're talking about because it is a big part of my dream to be able to work with girls and young women. Because those are so formative of times. so confusing of times. I was just confused for many, many years. He

Yeah, we absolutely all work. Are you familiar with Claire Zammit? Dr. Claire Zammit? Yes, she she wrote the book on relationships and she talks about uncoupling Is that her? No one would wear Thomas Yeah, no, Claire is the she she has a whole worldwide movement of empowerment for women and feminine power and all the things you would enjoy her you should look into. .

I told you I was a little scattered this morning. I didn't bring my notes with me.

anything important, we want to make sure that we get shared. While we're here together. I love what we were talking about a little before we got on the call and just

you know how prevalent it is right now people struggling with mental health issues, especially anxiety, and that.

Angie Ilg 42:42
That that's not your forever thing. This is not something that you have to always struggle with. I see people that do. They, they see things a certain way. And it's unhelpful. Like they see things as sort of like the victim in their own life. And they,

I don't know if I can help them when they they're happy with the way they see things in some way. You know, like it works for them, there's a benefit to being the victim. But if you're someone who you want to, you want to feel differently, you want to have a different experience of life. You don't have to struggle and suffer your whole life, there's so much out there.

And then I know there's a lot of resources in the show notes in terms of ways I can help.

Because I know that can also be overwhelming to not know how, but I offer a free cold guidebook and webinar on emotional ease. And that's a great place to start. If you're struggling in these ways to start to understand some emotional health stuff. That's just one piece of the puzzle. But I really want to just just say that because I think sometimes people need a little bit of hope about it because it can feel so all pervasive and it can feel so permanent. Yeah. And then you get a mental health diagnosis. And suddenly that becomes what you are. That's label that gets put on you. I am bipolar, I am manic depressive I am. And we always try to teach you if you're going to say I am make sure it's followed by something powerful. And and you know, don't let your diagnosis be the definition of who you are. And yeah, our words are so powerful. And that's even that shift alone to instead of saying I'm OCD, you could say I'm experiencing OCD. That's what I say I experienced OCD or I'm having an OCD experience.

Even that alone, it's there's a different energy. I mean prior like even saying I'm feeling versus I am like I'm sad. I'm feeling sad. It's different, or feeling depressed is different than I am. Exactly. I'm experiencing this emotion in this moment, not who I am. Yeah.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 44:59
Yeah. Awesome. All right, cool. So again, in case people are just listening, say your website, if you're sure.

Angie Ilg 45:09
So my website is Angie It's a ngi

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 45:16
Okay, awesome. And then again, when you get the chance, look in the show notes for all the links, then go and have a free session with Angie and see if she can bring some happiness into your life and make you feel better. It's awesome. Yeah, I love to talk to you. Thank you so much for being here with me.

Angie Ilg 45:32
Thank you, Lauren. This is so nice.

Lauren Gabrielle Foster 45:34
Okay, cool. And I'm going to be back next week with another great guest. As usual, I can't remember who it is, because that's all week away. But be sure and join me back here at 1130 Eastern time. And be sure to like and follow the Facebook page, subscribe to the podcast channel wherever you are, get on board and help us spread the word and empower women all over the world. So I'm going to see you next week. In the meantime, remember, happiness is a choice and you can always choose to be happy first. I'll see you soon.

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