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Lauren G. Foster (1s):
Hello, and welcome to the how to choose happiness and freedom show. I'm your host Lauren Foster happiness teacher, and founder of be heavy first as a certified life mastery consultant, masters of wisdom and meditation teacher and primal health coach. I'm on a mission to help 1 million women learn to be happy and free on purpose, healthy, wealthy, and joyfully living life on your own terms. Happiness is a choice and you can always choose to be happy first. Thanks so much for being here now on to today's episode, I am beyond excited and honored to have my guests today to you sit there and smile while I explain where I met you.
Lauren G. Foster (43s):
Okay. So this is the way the universe works. If you get tapped in and tuned in and turned on and connected and paying attention to the clues, the universe wants to give you. So recently I woke up one morning with the strong urge to try again, to write a book. I'm like, okay. So I cut all my fingernails off real short to type. And I started writing everything that I could think of that would be about this next started my book. Well, then I got an email from a woman's group that was inviting me.
Lauren G. Foster (1m 14s):
It was a generic email that was sent to a lot of people to inviting me, to write part of an anthology to partner with other authors on a book. And I thought, Hmm, that's a cool idea, but the language and the title and the topic and all that didn't really resonate with me. And I don't know, I just kind of felt like it was a bulk email. Well, within a couple of days, I got a personal email from powerful you publishing how awesome is that name? And it was the same idea in anthology called the art and truth of transformation for women.
Lauren G. Foster (1m 48s):
And so I signed a book deal. It makes me sound so important. Thank you. And I wanted the mentorship. I wanted the kitchen. I wanted the help that I knew I would get from this great publisher and, and the universe brought me Sue. So welcome Sue or dad.
Sue Urda (2m 7s):
Oh, well, thank you. That was so sweet. And you know, here's the thing about that, Lauren, right? Synchronicity. It happens when we're lying up. When we have that intention out there and we're ready and it's stuff, pretty decisive, stock opportunities come up, people show up emails, show up. It's like, wow, this is exactly what I was wishing wanting desiring. And here it is. I love that. That's so cool. So cool. And I'm so happy to know you. I mean, and you know, the email that we sent you was because we felt aligned. We found you online and it's like, okay, your mission, our mission totally aligned.
Sue Urda (2m 41s):
We were out there kind of doing the same thing and then come to find out, you know, there I am, you know, that's sort of a cluster and our books are all about raising the migration of people on the planet, our young people in their lives. It's all about that. We publish almost all women except for a couple of two guys, actually that have been part of our anthologies. And it's so interesting because every single person that we have met and every single person that I talked to as their publisher, it's like, you know, our missions are aligned, ignores in mind, like your company be happy first, I'm writing a book, but feel good guide.
Sue Urda (3m 14s):
It's like, okay, there we are totally like heart, soul sisters. And we didn't even know each other until a little while ago.
Lauren G. Foster (3m 21s):
Try it. I love it. I love it. So very, very much. And so we are going to talk about your challenge. That's coming up. We're going to talk about your book. That's coming out. So Sue is a happiness teacher, too. She calls herself something different, but it's the same thing. And yeah. And so we're going to learn some of her favorite tips and tricks to, well, okay. So first of all, just kind of explain who you are and what you, what you mean by feeling good now and know, tell us the story.
Sue Urda (3m 49s):
Yeah, absolutely. So it's interesting. You know, this for me has been kind of a, I won't call it a lifelong quest to feel good, right. And edit a base level. That's what every single person in the whole wide world, once no matter what it is that they want and what they think is going to make them happy, it's still all about that base level, that emotion that makes you feel good. And so, you know, my friends, you know, when I started doing this kind of work and I said, I started to starting years ago, my dad actually introduced me to this type of work. So lucky it was, you don't have that.
Sue Urda (4m 20s):
He actually asked the way about 25, 26 years ago now. But you know, when I was young, in my twenties, he was reading Wayne Dyer, exhibit R all these people. But Wayne Dyer specifically, he's like, you know, read this, you know, you gotta read this. So this is how to live basically is what he's saying. And he always says to me how to do it from here. You can't do it from here. You know? And he's a business man. And he started his own company. I joined him in that company and he was a great businessman, but he always said, you gotta feel it first. And if it doesn't feel good saying no immediately, and just let people know that.
Sue Urda (4m 52s):
And the only reason you ever have to give anybody or walking away or not doing something, cause it doesn't feel right to me. And so I always, I got tapped into that thing and I said, okay, I have to deal with it about this. And even though my thinking mind, I I'm very, some people call me anal, but you know, like I like to write stuff down. I have lists of lists. I like to think about, well, I'm going to scan isn't it on this and this, this and this, you know, like all the things that could go wrong could go right. Be the benefits would be a failure.
Sue Urda (5m 22s):
Whatever I do all that here. But then it's really all about that. One thing I could say, no, this is really the reason why you have to do this. You know, there's one thing because it feels good. It feels right. It's from the heart. It's from the gut. It's not from my head ever. That says that, you know, it's awesome though, when you can align both of those. And that's really the only time things were that fast when things work out is when your heart and your mind are aligned, but I'm married. Lucky. I think so. I've had my dad who had that outlook.
Sue Urda (5m 52s):
We had that positive outlook who read all kinds of books all the time. He loved Leo scallions doing any, you know, they all just value wise books about love when he's no longer with us. But it's like, he wrote both all about lobbies. These classes in colleges about love and what it is about relationships, but about love that feeling of love that we have for, and that need that we have to line up everything we do. And the people that surrounded us in a loving way so that our lives feel good. Face level, everything called about feeling good.
Sue Urda (6m 24s):
So I was starting to say, when I started teaching this stuff and started getting more into it, it's like people say, Oh, you have to have like that headline. Like, what do you call yourself? So then my friends and I were going through this when my friend, Jennifer, who I loved what I always, I admire her mind so much that she was so good at asking those questions to get you to where you want to be. Just like any good coach. She is like one of my best friends. And I love her. She said, Sue, you're all about feeling good. Maybe you are the feel good guidance. And I'm like, Ooh, that's interesting.
Sue Urda (6m 54s):
But God is not really weird people, artists, you know? And I, this isn't a word we made it up. I mean, it's not work. And guy, it felt masculine. So I was like, okay, we got a gal. So that's what we call me. I feel good gal. And that feels good.
Lauren G. Foster (7m 10s):
Yeah. That's awesome. I came up with my name. I thought I invented the term happiness coach. That was what I originally called. Came to find that I didn't. But yeah, it was like, Oh, I want to teach people how to be happy. Ah, yeah. Alright. So what, tell us about the challenge would, when does it start to tell us all this stuff about?
Sue Urda (7m 33s):
Yeah. It's so weird because the word challenge to me is challenging. First of all, I want that word, but it is kind of a challenge. No, we're going through some interesting times right now, very unique times. None of us have ever done this stuff before. You know, this is a pandemic thing happens once in a hundred years, stuff is there's a lot on rest. There's all these things. So it is a challenge for people to get into that space where you can feel good. Now you Lauren and I, you know, positive practices to help us. It'd be a matter to raise our vibration, get us in that ease, ease, calm that level, where we're feeling okay about things we can call her mind.
Sue Urda (8m 9s):
We can call her emotions, you know, meditation, walking in nature, all of those things. And yet, you know, even though we know those things. And so when people listening right now know those things in challenging times, it becomes harder to do those things and to be staying with that practice because it is a practice. It is none of this stuff is a one and done. This is like, you got to live in it. You got to do it all the time. You have to feel what you're feeling when you're doing these practices.
Sue Urda (8m 39s):
So it's very interesting to get into that space. So the challenge that I created and I call it a 21 day challenge. And so what it is is for 21 days, we're sending an email. So it's an undemanding. You know, you sign up, you know, as far as the next Monday, the 7th of July, but any day that you sign up, we'll get the first deal. And then every day for 21 days, you get an email in your box. What it is is it's very simple. It's short. It might take you three minutes, go through the whole thing, but it's a, it's kind of a lesson about something that you can do and bring into your life that will help you to feel better about what's going on.
Sue Urda (9m 18s):
And this is like feeling good, no matter what. Okay. And so that means that you're engaging a couple of different things. You're engaging your mind. You're engaged because your class also, you know, lead, you're appealing for feelings, thoughts they do, but it's like finding this tantric negative thing. But if you think about what you're thinking about and anything that could mediate joy, does it create happiness? Does it create a sense of peace or am I causing myself to be angry or frustrated or overwhelmed?
Sue Urda (9m 53s):
What am I, what am I causing it? I like just one simple thing, you know? So we talked about in this challenge, we go through the class. What, what are the classes? And a lot of your thoughts of course have to deal with words. So we talked about what are the power words that you can use? What are empowering questions you can use and learn about empowering questions years ago? And I think it was <inaudible> a long time ago. It was, and I was at a Tony Robbins event and it was a one day event.
Sue Urda (10m 23s):
He had great speakers and it was to get you to sign up for some other things, which I did. But it this one day when he talked about these empowering questions and it's, you know, your warning, wake up questions, you know what I mean? You think about who loves me? What do I love? What am I excited about? What am I grateful for? What am I happy about? Those are empowering questions. But when you get reminded of that, asking those kinds of questions, your Brian is great because this is a wonderful computer. And it will answer any question you asked, you've got to ask questions to get you to where you want it to be.
Sue Urda (10m 53s):
And so we talked about it, throwing questions, talking about simple actions. You can take like meditation, like walking in either one like those things, but it's a little more detail than that. Just to help you focus a little differently because there are a million amazing meditation teacher, for example, but there are little things that each one of those little differently that it might resonate with their vehicle. So the challenge is there. And so what happens is day that you had maybe one thing, you start using a certain word, you start not using certain words.
Sue Urda (11m 24s):
These are not complaining. You know, those kinds of things, you bite your tongue before you complain to us. So we get into that. And so little by little, totally the 21st day to feel good, literally every single day, you can feel good about that. One little thing that you can do for yourself. And then the neat thing is if you do this, get a friend, get a family member to do this with you. It really comes back and you say the to it. So that's what the challenges, everybody to sign up. It's totally free. It's something that I am giving away because it is so important that you'll first to be happy first and in a space where you couldn't feel good about things that are going on, no matter what is happening around you, there are things you can do a bit about.
Lauren G. Foster (12m 8s):
Awesome. So hopefully Tammy's listening and if not, I'll, I'll come and add it in later. What's the link to go. Did you, do we have a link for that? Okay.
Sue Urda (12m 17s):
Yes. It's at my website, which is SU or to <inaudible> dot com forward slash 21 slash 21.
Lauren G. Foster (12m 28s):
And we'll make sure wherever you're watching this video or listening to this podcast, if you just look down there will be none. So the comments with all of the links to everything that we talk about today, so is the 21 debt is, is it cumulative? So like the thing that I do on day 21, am I going to keep doing that? So that at the end of it, I have 21 new habits or
Sue Urda (12m 54s):
It's, you know, it's interesting because each day is standalone, but you know, when you start putting them all together, it definitely adds up to something that it helps you along the way, because now you're practicing yesterday's plus today for the next, but it adds up.
Lauren G. Foster (13m 11s):
Yeah. Yeah. So, and this is what it's so interesting to me. I mean, you're right. I've been studying this stuff for years and I do have all kinds of funny thousands of tricks and tools in my toolkit. And yet some I forget about them like, Oh, Oh, I forgot that cool thing that I could do. And you know, then you get yourself back into a habit. And that, the other thing is that in your 21 days, there's going to be things that resonate with people more. So at the end, they might have 10 things that they just love.
Lauren G. Foster (13m 43s):
It really get in the habit of doing and that go by the wayside. So yeah, there's no right or wrong way to get happy. Right.
Sue Urda (13m 51s):
Right. Absolutely not. No, I would like to just start by one thing, I call it the feel good thing and happiness feel good. I think they're very similar, you know, like I, you know, you consider and talk about what the definitions are and stuff. But one thing that I will say about feeling good is that I don't want people to think that there's just going to be you all the time, but you know, there's some tough things going on, but what the kind of feel good and I'm talking about are the things like, okay, so right now, for example, my mom lives in Texas. I live here, you know, she's getting older, you know, stay home most of the time.
Sue Urda (14m 23s):
She's a little bit lonely sometimes. So I don't feel good about all of that stuff on. I can go a bit about is the fact that every single day I video call her it was chat or at least an hour every single day. And it feels good to do that. You know? So it's like, that's one of the things that didn't appeal and other kinds of things I'm talking about as far as feeling good are doing the thing that you know, to, to do. So for instance, if you know that, you know, maybe you have, I don't know, whatever, you have a certain diet that you need now, because even though <inaudible> every day, but you know, it's like a way to have those every once in a while, but it feels good for me to know I'm taking care of myself for me to know that I did not get it.
Sue Urda (15m 16s):
So even though it's hard, it still feels good. So I don't want people to just think this is all happy and roses and all that kinds of stuff like that. It can be. And it gets you there when you do the bags and when you pay those two, the one little thing I just wanted to clarify that.
Lauren G. Foster (15m 32s):
Yeah, it's really interesting. And that the, the definition of happiness comes up all the time. And let's say that, that, that this is to me, happiness is a feeling and, and you know what, you know, what it feels like for you, you know, you're, you're, you know what to say, your conversations are flowing. You're, you know, just work. You're all by yourself. And you're listening to the bird sing. And it's a feeling I, I believe that feeling is universal, but how, what is, what makes you feel that feeling is completely different maybe than, than what, what makes me feel that way?
Lauren G. Foster (16m 12s):
So all ways to happiness. And then we also always get into the question of, well, I just lost my, my lover. You know, my, my spouse of 50 years just died. It feels inappropriate to be happy in, in, in that moment. And so then when we get to where the feel good part is for you, where, where you're talking about. And to me, that's like, yes, this is, this is heart wrenching in my heart is broken and I'm going to feel and all those feelings, but I'm going to feel those feelings, knowing that it's going to get better, knowing that having the hope that as I heal as time goes by, as I, you know, can put myself in a place where I can remember all of the wonderful times, instead of just being in the place where I miss him so badly, then that's the feel good place.
Lauren G. Foster (17m 7s):
That's the feeling better place that will eventually get you back to happy. And now your right eye, top of the line, happy, happy, happy. Every single second would be kind of boring. You know, you need the needs, ups and downs. You need the contrast to help you be able to appreciate those awesome happy times.
Sue Urda (17m 27s):
Yeah, absolutely. You said the word, Abraham pics, you studied them, love attraction. That's what they talk about all the time. The contrast is what makes us appreciate things. That is what allows us to have gratitude for things, because we can recognize that difference. Like you had this beautiful, amazing, loving relationship, thank goodness that you had that in it and be for that. And yes, you miss it and yeah, you do your life so much better. All of that. It's like that contrast is what makes you appreciate it more.
Sue Urda (17m 60s):
Absolutely. No question about it.
Lauren G. Foster (18m 2s):
Can't exist without one another. You know, there can't be any, any light without darkness. No, you know, they, without nodding good stuff. Good stuff. Okay. So what is, what's the name of your book?
Sue Urda (18m 17s):
I'm sorry, what's the name of my book? Well, I am working on a book. It is called the field guide and basically what it is I'm working on the timeline. But currently it is to train your brain master emotions and take inspired action to feel good, no matter what, because that's really what it comes down to. No matter what happens, otherwise we wouldn't be here. Right. And we get opportunities. We have choices all the time.
Sue Urda (18m 51s):
Sometimes we have some key places, right? Maybe there's some choices, but maybe there's just two choices that you have to make. But somehow one of those choices is a little less stuffy, right. And so how do you get to feel good? So it's not always bad going from, you know, going to be stressed or depressed or anxious and happy. And just all of that, it's about what is the little steps in between what are the increments? And it gets back to the 21 days challenge.
Sue Urda (19m 22s):
That's what it does is bring those little things into play that really do add up over time because we just don't, we have problems with choices, but that role of the field guide is, is the fact that this one window, the challenge is kind of a introduction into that field guide. And it will give you those kinds of lessons that a little bit deeper into it, a little bit more in the book, which I hope by the end of the year, that AIDS is still I'm excited about it because it seems so basic <inaudible> and it's kind of like, that's what this is about.
Sue Urda (20m 1s):
It's not about the heart. It's about the yang. It's about the sunshine. It's about how do you get into that space where you can feel good about, or what really is this book will be about that, the mindset tricks the mind. And then I call them, <inaudible> say these things you affirm that you want to be having their life so that you can bring them into your life into existence.
Sue Urda (20m 36s):
And it's about keeping us in prison the way, right. Literally, it's all we have, you know, the past we can't affect the past. Yes we can. Yes. Can do something else we can give ourselves or give somebody else we can build on that into the future hasn't happened yet. So we can, you know, usually when we're planning for the future, we're either worrying about it or we are taking his passion to get these desired results. So we do it today, whether we're remembering something or planning something in our heads, visioning something, that's what we do right now.
Sue Urda (21m 14s):
So it's about getting in the moment and being in the present with the people that you're with, everything that is surrounding you with the space that you're on, it's so important to just get started or whatever it is that you desire. So that's what the book is about.
Lauren G. Foster (21m 31s):
That's awesome. And, but we, we operate on patterns that have been put into our brains, our whole entire lives and to convince our brain that, that we don't want that pattern anymore. We want a new one take a little bit of time. And so that's why I love things that like a structure of 21 days, that, that helps you stay focused. It helps you remember it helps you to establish a habit of new kinds of thinking. So I really encourage everybody to get on SUSE challenge.
Lauren G. Foster (22m 2s):
And we're, we're planning to start a challenge in September as well. We'll tell you more about that later on. It's going to be the 28 day happy and free on purpose challenge.
Sue Urda (22m 11s):
I love it. I love it. I agree.
Lauren G. Foster (22m 15s):
I agree. Yeah. And, you know, that's, it almost all the conflict that I ever see seems to boil down to somebody trying to take away somebody else's freedom, someone trying to control someone else, someone trying to, you know, make you do something that you don't want to do. So that's all the other subject I want to talk with you about journaling. We're, we're big journaling pants here and that, and that that's such a broad term because you know, my journal and my planner are the same thing. I'm, I'm planning and creating on paper, you know, based on scheduled appointments, based on things that I want to manifest in the day or create or do and all of that.
Lauren G. Foster (22m 55s):
So what are your, what are your thoughts and feelings and tips, tricks, tricks, and tips about journaling.
Sue Urda (23m 2s):
It's so interesting because journaling is something, you know, for me, I guess I'm not automatically, in fact, I've written two books and both, basically those two books that I've written in the past are journaling. The journaling for me was a little bit different. So when I fist or that the way that I have done journaling in the past and ended up being too boastful with that, I would, I would write what was going on. And like, you know, so there's some dilemma or some challenge or some wonderful thing that was happening. So I would take over that and think about that for myself and, and quit the feeling.
Sue Urda (23m 37s):
That's what that's all about. <inaudible> people do that because if you're journaling, you know, it's like that. However, I will say I sit here and not, I have nothing. So I would sit there and I would make myself sit there until something came out. And some days it was a sentence, some days it was pages. And it was so interesting to me. So I think my, or whatever it was, <inaudible> about ask myself a couple of questions.
Sue Urda (24m 10s):
What is this this year for? Why is it, what is it trying to teach me? I'm asked to do anything. It's the same feeling about this right now? This is something I got to do to feel better about it. They make sure that I'm on track to, you know, whatever it is. And then I also asked myself and another question is really important. Is there anything? And this was when I first started really practicing gratitude for well, years ago really went home every single day.
Sue Urda (24m 46s):
And we did that. And so that was 10 years ago now. And you know, what can I be grateful for is this thing that is happening, whether it's, you know, a wonderful thing or not a wonder, there's always something to be grateful for, no matter what. So what was it that I would put in my own journal? And for me, that work, because I also, I consider myself to be gritty and I would like things in order, like structure like lists.
Sue Urda (25m 18s):
So those things need to stay on track. And it's, <inaudible> little <inaudible> and I like that too, but the structure sometimes really helps me.
Lauren G. Foster (25m 34s):
That's awesome. I love it. That again, there's no right or wrong way to journal and, and, but figuring out what you like and how you like to journal, that's fun. You know, there's always fun in the journey. If you decide that you're going to have it and that yeah. The are big words, decide and choose. And in every single moment you get to look over at this thing that pisses you off, or look over at this thing that you loved and look for the gifts, or, you know, complain about the rain or be grateful for the rain.
Sue Urda (26m 7s):
Exactly, exactly. Absolutely. And that's so important. And one thing, journaling is so interesting for me. Like I said, my journals turn into a book, two books that I had everyday gratitude. So I definitely, but that's where I went with that. And, and many authors that come to us to publish their stories in the anthologies or write their own books. They use their journals as a basis for their books and their writing
Lauren G. Foster (26m 34s):
There. I didn't that I'm having camera problems. That's why that,
Sue Urda (26m 39s):
I see that.
Lauren G. Foster (26m 40s):
Did you say I turned into Casper the ghost? I don't know what this lighting thing is, but anyway,
Sue Urda (26m 46s):
You know who that was?
Lauren G. Foster (26m 51s):
Talk about my book because we still have room for authors, right? Yes we do. And if anybody, if anybody has stayed this long in this video, then they're aligned with you in the end with this whole idea of the art and truth of transformation. So, so explain to our listeners what it is and explain what a contributing author will do. Is that okay? I sprung this on you that, wow,
Sue Urda (27m 15s):
Absolutely. Gosh. Yeah. So I appreciate that. So here's the thing. So we have published 13 anthology books and more than 350 people have contributed, contributed stories to these books. And we're working on gathering authors for our 14th anthology book, which Lauren is going to take part in which I'm thrilled about. And she is going to share her story in this book about her own transformation. So what the book is, is a collection of authors is collaborative project. We gather authors who have a story, a personal story of transformation.
Sue Urda (27m 48s):
So it's not a teaching guide, but the stories in the book are personal. So it's kind of like, okay, you think about all the life you've lived. You've gone through many transformations at different points in your life, some more profound than others. So what is it about your transformation that perhaps you wanted to share to help other people on their own journey of transformation and you share, you know, kind of like where you were, what was going on in your life, you share what happened or what, what made you helped you to make that decisions made that shift in your life to transform to a different way of living a new way of being showing up differently in your life.
Sue Urda (28m 22s):
And then how is your life now? Like what's going on? What are you enjoying about your life or about the people you're interacting with? Maybe you started a new business. Maybe you did lose someone in your life and now life is different. And how does it look for you now? How did you get through those things? So in sharing your personal story, that things you did, somebody else can look at that and say, Oh wow. You know, Hey, if she can get through that, I can still work. I felt exactly that way I have felt lost or floundering or something like that. And I didn't know exactly what to do, but if I do what she did, I can do it too.
Sue Urda (28m 56s):
So that, that's what the book is about. It's a very, I'll call it a high vibration book. We've got lots of authors. We still have some spots left. I'm looking for authors who are ready to share their story. The other thing it does. So the book itself is a wonderful, wonderful guide for the people that read it as an author, being a contributing author, to this, what you get is exposure to a whole new audience because all of the authors, and there'll be at least 20 authors in the book, probably more than that, but at least 20. And they all share this book.
Sue Urda (29m 26s):
They sell it to their audiences. They have people in all of the authors. I talked to every single one, they are online. So they are on have the same kind of mission and, and soul that Lauren and I have. And this is what we're gathering together. And so, you know, you're reaching an audience that aligned with you too, because all of the authors are, and we, we do an Amazon bestseller campaign. So you, as an author, you ended up with not only a published book, but you also ended up with the potential of being a best selling author on Amazon. So these are some cool things to do.
Sue Urda (29m 57s):
And it's great. These projects, bill, our mission of raising the vibration of the people in the planet, because we are then helping all of these other women to do the same thing and get out there in a bigger, broader way. And it's really just, it's a labor of love for us. And it's, you know, it's really awesome. And I just, I, we love our authors. We love the gosh, the empowerment that is being divested in the world via these books. It's just amazing
Lauren G. Foster (30m 25s):
And excited about this. I, I just, I get chill bumps every time I think about it. And you know, w we are, everybody has a story to tell, and there is someone out there who really needs to hear your story, my story, and we are supporting each other like this, especially women and amplifying one another's voice of this is how we change the world.
Sue Urda (30m 47s):
Lauren G. Foster (30m 50s):
Makes me happy. So happy.
Sue Urda (30m 52s):
Yeah, me too. I am so happy for all of this. It was so great. And you know, our company, powerful youth publishing that's, that's what it's about. It's about powerful you, you know, empowering people. And so yes, story is how we learn from each other. That's what really resonates with all of us. You know, I could teach you five steps to do something, but when I tell you why and how it makes a difference and what it did for me and my client or something like that, that's where it really hits home. And that's how we can all one by one, helped to shift the world and help everyone to feel better about what's going on in their lives.
Lauren G. Foster (31m 25s):
So that there's a book called, I think it's called connected, but it's all about how our social networks influence us and it's full of statistics. But the one that always sticks in my mind is that if you know, 20 people well enough to be invited to a dinner party, then you directly impact the lives of 8,000 people. Wow. That, that that's just by existing. And so, you know, if you amplify your voice just a little bit more, I mean, it's not that hard to, to bring about world change and we don't need 50% of the people to look at things in a different way.
Lauren G. Foster (32m 2s):
We only need 10%. That was another number that there's like a tipping point that if we can get 10% of the world to be operating in this, this loving co-creating with the universe, the supporting one another compassionate way, then the rest of the world will follow suit. So, you know, yes.
Sue Urda (32m 22s):
Yeah, absolutely. That's what it is. It reminds me of a commercial from years ago and I might be dating myself, but it was about a shampoo where they share the shampoo and they said, and they'll tell two friends and they'll tell two friends and so on. But by the end of this thing, it's, there's all these people's faces in there because there's, that's how many people, one person can affect. So it's, it's cool. I absolutely love that. And you mentioned the tipping point, by the way, that's a wonderful book. The tipping point by Malcolm Gladwell. Wonderful. What a book that explains exactly that it's like, what, where did, how many people do you have to reach?
Sue Urda (32m 52s):
And literally we only have three 20 at a time. If each of us does our part, it really does make the whole world just amazingly better in shifts, you know? And, and it's about being conscious about what we're sharing, right? Cause we are making a difference. Like you said, you get invited to this dinner party with 20 people, you're going to make an impact no matter what. So it's like what impact you want to make and what do you want to say? And in this case, what story do you want to share? What part of your life you want to share to help impact people's lives? Because you're making a difference no matter what. So let's focus it, let's concentrate.
Sue Urda (33m 24s):
Let's decide ahead and find what is that vibe I want to put out there and do that on purpose on purpose.
Lauren G. Foster (33m 34s):
Alright, awesome. Well, Sally, is there anything else that you, so the powerfully publishing website is up on the screen and again, it will be in the comments. We'll share the challenge link, we'll share everything we can think of to get you hooked up with Sue and with Palfrey publishing. Is there anything else that you want to add that we might've forgotten to talk about?
Sue Urda (33m 53s):
Yeah. You know, one thing I'd like to add. Okay. So about the publishing, anybody that is interested in being a part of this anthology book, if you would like to go further, please visit our website, simple for you, publishing.com, but I'm going to give you a code that you can save a hundred dollars off. Any book package that you like it is author 100. And when you type that in, when you purchase your package, type it into their discount code, you'll save $100 off any package that you've purchased. And we would love to have you on happy to talk to you about your story, to help you feel like, you know, get you honed in on what is the right story.
Sue Urda (34m 26s):
What part of your story, your life to tell, to help you position yourself and help you share what is most beneficial for the readers as well?
Lauren G. Foster (34m 35s):
That th that is the absolute truth, because, you know, I told you about the place I was in. When I, when I first talked with SIM, like, I want to write a book, but you know, you're so in your own story that it feels very normal and very unremarkable. That's the word I'm like, Sue, my story is unremarkable and is like Novar and your story is not remarkable.
Sue Urda (34m 59s):
Lauren G. Foster (34m 59s):
Yeah. So, you know, there are elements of the things that I've lived through that are completely alien to a lot of people and, but will also be familiar to a lot of people. They'll be like, Oh yeah, I've been there. I've been there. I've been there. And either way people can, can benefit from hearing my story and hearing the ways that I did turn things around and created my life in a different way. And they can benefit from your story too.
Sue Urda (35m 25s):
Yeah. And that's my job. That's my job. As like a story coach is to ask those questions of you. So we get to that. And so you say, you know, a lot, it's not unremarkable. This was really great. And this is really going to be so helpful to, you know, and it's so, so wonderful. I love it. I love this.
Lauren G. Foster (35m 41s):
And after this, he is going to help me write my own book when I know what it is. I think it's going to be called the magic orchid syndrome.
Sue Urda (35m 50s):
Well, I can say I can't wait to hear more about it.
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Lauren G. Foster (35m 55s):
Awesome. Okay. Well again, I'm always going to be happy first.com for it or not.com.org. Anywhere you click on that website, you can get freebies free. Meditation's are free five secrets to happiness, journaling guide and anything that you get, we'll get you on our email list. So that you'll be up today and all of the fund plans that we're making and book lunches and all that steps. I'll get connected with Sue, get connected with us here at be happy first. And you know, she's happiness.
Lauren G. Foster (36m 26s):
Sue, thank you for being here with us.
Sue Urda (36m 29s):
Oh Lauren. Thank you so much. I so appreciate you. I love being here. I love talking to your audience. I love talking to you. I'm looking forward to what's next.
Lauren G. Foster (36m 36s):
We're going to be back together very soon and I'm going to be back here on Thursday by myself with all kinds of random things that I want to talk to you about magic water bottles and moon cycles and astrology and retreats and challenges and things for Thursday. Yeah. Alrighty. So until then, remember that happiness is a choice and you can always choose to be happy first.
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